Sunday, June 26, 2011

Everybody limbo!

The music is playing and voices around me are all cheering: "Go go go! You can do it! LIMBOOOO!" So I approach the bar, bend ever so carefully and proceed to inch forward only to discover that I'm directly under the bar and can't move. Metaphorically speaking, this is how I feel after returning from Cape Town. I'm stuck in between two places - behind me is South Africa and in front of me is the USA and I'm unable to move forward or backward. Welcome to "Limbo" a feeling that has been described to me by past students as "a feeling of not knowing where you belong. You've left South Africa and it's great to see family and friends back Home but a part of you hasn't arrived to the USA yet." And that's exactly how I'm feeling. Exactly a week ago today I arrived back on US soil. In fact, this time last week I was sitting in Lou Malnati's pizzeria savoring some missed deep dish pizza while talking a million miles an hour about my experiences with my parents. I can't believe it's already been a week...the first few days were a real struggle, especially the grocery store. Went to Meijer to pick some stuff up for my Mom - talk about struggle fest. I was totally overwhelmed. It's silly because you don't think about these things until you've been in a place where a grocery store was a legit grocery store where you can only buy food and it takes 20 min max to shop. An hour later my sister and I leave the store, tears welling up in my eyes. How I wished to be back in Obz...


It's not so much the places but the people who I miss the most. My K-House Family, Northwestern group (who lived down the street from us), my Capeoira (Brazilian martial arts) group, UWC friends, Tembaletu, Pearnel, Melikaya, Theresa, Buli, and local friends...for my visual diary I made a scrapbook of all the people who've influenced my experience in South Africa. I counted and there were over 60. No wonder there's a physical ache in my chest for the relationships and experiences I've left behind...don't get me wrong, I truly am happy to see my parents, sister, dog and friends but I have to be honest that a part of me is still overseas, especially my heart. 


It's pathetic, really. I'm sitting here in the middle of my room, floor scattered with odds and ends from my still unpacked suitcase and much like my floor, I'm a mess. How can such an incredible experience produce such pain? Such a shame...


Just to give you an idea...




On a positive note, as much as I miss everyone and everything about South Africa, I know that my experience was a true once-in-a-lifetime adventure and even if I were to hop on plane tomorrow and go back, it wouldn't be the same. And it never could. So, I have a choice. I can look back and long to relive the past at the expense of missing out on the present. Or I can look back with fondness, appreciate that I had such an opportunity and take what I've learned to move forward in order to have new experiences. I think the latter one sounds better. It's like my Dad told me: "You could go back now to continue what you were doing and help a small portion of people. But in order to help more people, which I know is what you want, you need to finish you education." Dang, Dad. I hate it when you're right...Then there's my Mom: "Sad experiences are an unfortunate part of life but only from pain can we grow. Without it we experience no change." I've decided that my parents are too wise for my own good sometimes, which is exactly why I love them. 


So, even though this a painful time for me, I know in the end it will produce growth. I will discover new strengths and weaknesses and realize lessons I have learned that I hadn't thought about. It's a grieving process that will be slow and painful but ultimately will produce perseverance and a new perspective on life. I'm not saying it's gonna be easy. But I have faith that with the help of God, my family and friends this is only the end of one chapter and the beginning to another. 


He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away.
Revelation 21:4


Changingly yours,


Janelle

Monday, June 6, 2011

ABC's of Passion for Learning

Words cannot begin to express my deepest apologies for not updating this like I promised. I have been swamped with last minute projects and just trying to soak everything in before leaving, which is scarily in less than two weeks (12 days...). Don't get me wrong, I'm stoked to come home and see all of you - my family and friends - but leaving the friendships I've made and experiences I've had is going to be absolute torture. Plus, whenever I've thought about blogging I've either been extremely busy or not in the "blogging mood" and would rather wait for a quality blog than quantity. But more on that later. Tomorrow is my last day at Tembaletu and today we gave a presentation during Monday Morning Assembly. Dan and I made 20 dozen sugar cookies as well as a slide show for the school to show our appreciation. Both were a hit. 


I got back from Poetry Nite (a small gathering of incredible people at a local restaurant that come together and appreciate/read poetry every Monday from 8-10) a little while ago and still have tons to do before tomorrow. But I wanted to share with you a poem I came up with that I read tonight and I hope you all enjoy:


A, B, C...E
I...Q...J?...T
T.
T....
Her eyes dart wildly back and forth
Her tongue unsure of what to say
From peer to peer her gaze begs for help
And then she turns my way


The third learner to struggle, to stumble,
To be stranded of all speech
Overwhelming was her potential
And all within her reach


Three months ago we locked eyes
And I knew what I had to do
Now, she stands before the class
Showing off what she knew


It's miraculous the power 
Of a simple little song
To ignite the passion of learning
Inspiring all to sing along


"Miss Janelle! Miss Janelle!"
Every morning is greeted anew
"ABC's please please please!"
And I knew just what I had to do


"A b c d e f g
H i j k lmnop
Q r s
T u v
W x
Y & Z
Now I know my ABC's
Next time won't you sing with me?"


The room explodes with sound
Of not thirty but one voice
And though imperfect the pitch, the rhythm, and even some letters
They had the courage to make the choice


The choice to listen to this white girl
Who'd never left her country until five months ago
And laugh as she stumbles over her Xhosa
And teach her all that she needed to know


About the masquerade of poverty
And the face of disease
That grasps the lives of these children 
And how a smile could wipe away the wrath of these demons, with ease


Yes, a smile, a simple smile
Was all it took to break their mundane routine
Of struggle to fight the judgment, pain and disadvantage
Of their disabilities


So smiles we shared
No words need be explained
The beauty of a disabled child
Smiling through her pain


I am not a teacher
Simply a learner who longs to learn
And has been forever touched
By the hearts of her learners whose hearts of passion burn.

Their hearts are like an oven; they approach him with intrigue. Their passion smolders all night; in the morning it blazes like a flaming fire.
Hosea 7:6


Passionately yours,


Janelle

Monday, May 16, 2011

So you think you can dance?

Hands fly up all around me – some open, fingers reaching for the sky while others are cupped in reverence and kept close to the body. I look to my right to see a 6’ 4” black man with both hands high and outstretched, a smile beaming across his face. Behind me a generation boundary is evaporated as a Grandmother gently sways back and forth, 8 month Granddaughter in her arms. Across the way a middle-aged white woman catches my eyes and moves my heart as she kneels on the carpet, head and arms up, spirit alive. Welcome to Sunday morning Church. More specifically, 9:30 Sunday morning service at Jubilee Community Church. Although I haven’t updated this in far far FAR too long, which I deeply apologize for, I have been having a culturally rich experience beyond imagination this past month, most recently starting yesterday morning. Admittedly, it has been awhile since I’ve been to church and yesterday was a wonderful reminder of how blessed I truly am.

I desperately want to elaborate more on my experience but currently I am strapped for time with a large assignment. Therefore, I will update again as soon as possible (and sooner than 1 month, I promise). Until then, God Bless.

(to be continued…)


Monday, April 18, 2011

No shirt, no shoes…no problem?

The gravel stung the bottom of my soles as I walked with Molly to Cha Chi’s, a local coffee shop, to work on my papers. Although it was only a 5 minute walk, my feet reminded me of their dissatisfaction with every step until we reached the entrance. And then it hit me. “Oh snap! I’m about to go into a restaurant and I’m not wearing shoes. I don’t want to have to turn around. Man…” Much to my surprise, the waitress looked at me and smiled as she showed me and Molly to our table. “Wow. I wonder if she saw my feet…” I shrugged it off and went about my work. Then, when I walked out to the bathroom I passed another waitress who also greeted me with a smile before and after looking directly at my feet. That’s when it hit me. Of course they wouldn’t not serve someone if they didn’t have shoes because they possibly can’t afford them. That and it’s just socially acceptable to walk around without shoes. In America one assumes that if you don’t have shoes you shouldn’t be eating out at a restaurant in the first place but here they don’t discriminate. Before I delve any deeper into thought I should explain why I wasn’t wearing shoes in the first place for all of those that are thinking, “But…but…no shoes? What???”

Two weeks ago the 5th of April was One Day without Shoes, an international awareness effort by TOMS shoes to promote awareness about children without shoes. In many developing countries children don’t have shoes and have to walk far distances to school, medical centers and even to fetch water. Children that walk on volcanic soil can contract a nasty foot disease, Podoconiosis, that’s 100% preventable with shoes. If you want more info click on the link above :)

So, that day I went without shoes. I did it on campus last year at Marquette and it was a very freeing yet grounding experience. Freeing in the sense that it allowed me to experience what some kids have to endure every day and at the same time it made me extremely grateful for my many blessings, including shoes. This year I found walking around Africa without shoes quite humbling. I experienced a day without shoes in order to help me understand a life without shoes…and with each new step onto the graveled road, I hope I can.


Your word is a light to my feet and light to my path.
Pslam 105:119


Callously yours,
Janelle

Wednesday, March 30, 2011

Disabled bodies but not disabled minds

Upon returning from an incredible 10 day road trip along the coast of South Africa, I realized that not only have I not updated in awhile but I have mentioned very little about my service site that I spend 2 days a week at. In short, I am a teaching assistant at Tembaletu, a school for kids with physical disabilities. I work in a grade 4 classroom with 30 kids of which only 5 speak English and the rest in their mother tongue, Xhosa (1 of SA's 11 official language - the "X" is pronounced with a click but can also be said as a "K" sound, e.g. Kosa). This is in an important detail because my third day there neither of the 2 grade 4 teachers showed up so I had to entertain the class for a full day. But that's for another entry :) Rather than me telling you about Tembaletu I will attempt at illustrating my first day experience...Oh and just a heads up, Dan is one of my housemates that also works at Tembaletu and Pearnel is our awesome driver and second father :)

Day 1 - 7 February 2011
To say that I am overwhelmed with emotion would be an understatement: fear, nerves, excitement, confusion, wonder, appreciation, passion, uncertainty. It's only 9:30 and I already have seen more than I could have imagined. Dan and I were dropped off at 7:45, found the principal, and then taken to what will be regular Monday assemblies. We waited as the kids and teachers filed in. And that's when I was reminded. Reminded of how precious a child is, especially one who is physically disabled but mentally determined. They came in waves. some with walking-arm crutches, others with a tilted walk and still others helping those in wheelchairs. Soon the room was filled with bodies of young ones. Visually they struggled to move but you could see it in their eyes that they were just as normal as any other child. Their independence when walking begged for acceptance as "normal." Then the most incredible thing happened. Without warning the room echoed with the voices of what seemed like a thousand children. I had absolutely no idea what they were saying or what their words meant. But it didn't matter.
To some, the jumbled sounds and syllables could have easily been tuned out but not for me. What I heard was not just a mess of words but one voice. A voice of hope, passion and determination. My mind drifted to yesterday's church service at Jubilee where the minister said after a Xhosa song, "It's not about getting the words right but rather about the passion behind your sound." And that's what I heard in that room: passion. Not all of them could sing because their body disabled them to but that didn't stop them from trying. The sight of 300 physically disabled but mentally determined kids almost brought me to tears. A fiery passion stirred within me to fight whomever dared to call these kids anything but "normal." They may not be able to throw a baseball in a straight line but put them in a choir and their passion could outdo any athlete. 
Joy emanated from all of their faces as they sang songs in their native tongue. It is my goal to be able to sing along with them by the time I'm done here. After the songs ended there was a brief demonstration on recycling and how recycled items can be used to make other materials. This humbled me because I was reminded what kind of environment these kids lived in. Of course recycling isn't a priority or even an option when your family struggles to get fresh food and water everyday. The townships came alive this morning as we drove through them. Poverty was walking around before my eyes as Pearnel weaved in and out of the narrow roads. As much as I would love to live here one day I don't know if I could ever A) get used to driving on the left side or B) having such a narrow space to manuvere such a large van. Dan asked him if there was any running water in the townships to which his response of "no" surprised me. What I so easily take for granted...

...and that was my morning experience, which almost 2 months later I still cannot put into words. As of now I assist in teaching English (taught them the ABC song last week) and working on Life Orientation projects. I started a "Who am I?" project idea that I had borrowed from a friend where the kids cut out pictures from magazines that they think resembles them and then put all the pictures into a collage. It took a few attempts to explain the concept and some translating from the teachers but in the end every kid had a pair of scissors in one hand, a glue stick in the other and a smile on their face. In an environment where they are mostly lectured to all day with very little group work interaction, I could tell they welcomed the break of the usual classroom routine. I don't know if all of them totally understood what I was trying to convey but it didn't matter. Their joy was satisfying enough for me, especially this one girl, Lisa*. She's about 15 (the ages in grade 4 range from 10-15), in a wheel chair, is paralyzed in her legs and right arm in addition to having a condition where she can't keep her head up without it being elastically banded to her chair. Oh and she's non-verbal too. Needless to say she has a difficult time, especially since she has been placed in the back of the classroom where she is easily neglected and ignored. So, when all the other kids were cutting and pasting I went over and had her point to which pictures she wanted me to point out. Words cannot convey how heart-warming and rewarding it was to see her become giddy and smiley as I cut out pictures that she liked. Again, I'm not sure if she fully understood what was going on because sometimes she'd point to an entire page of pictures but I didn't care. I could feel the tears welling up as the bell rang to go to lunch.

The kids in Monday morning assembly

Me and some of the kids at their Sports Day (to be blogged about later)

Needless to say, I have slowly fallen in love with these kids each day I'm there. And the more fond of them I become the more upsetting it is to realize how tilted the education system is towards disabled children. Here are some of the problems I have witnessed:
  • the learners (which is what they call them instead of students) do not have individual learning plans (ILPs) because there is no way to sit down one-on-one to create such a plan with 30 other students in a class. Because of this problem, there is such a range of ability with usually only a handful (3-5) of learners are actually capable of doing the work the grade demands while the majority is left in the dark
  • Thus, come the end of the year they are "pushed" into the next grade, even though they can barely do the work of their current grade. They are "pushed" because of their age and what's expected of that "age" is to progress
  • Therefore each year teachers receive unprepared learns for the new grade and are required to give an assessment in February on that level (keep in mind the school year is all year round and starts in January). For example, these grade 4 learners recently finished grade 3 work in December but since they are now "in grade 4" they are expected to do grade 4 work on the assessment! The learners struggle to do the assessment and Tembaletu never receives the results of how the individual students scored except hearing through the media "such and such a school is doing poorly because not meeting their marks" which is totally unfair. The school image is reflected poorly and doesn't get the funding it needs to fix the initial issue (which is making time to create ILPs). If they must do an assessment in February, I believe they should do one in December as well to truly assess the progress of the learners and school and identify gaps in the system.
  • to top things off, the mainstream schools get grade 3 packets to prepare the grade 4 assessment but not here at Tembaletu. Thus the system is setting up the school for failure. Also, if Tembaletu identifies a learner with a mental disability and recommends that learner to Nompumolelu (school for mentally disabled children) the parents can refuse the recommendation and therefore the kids stay here and do nothing which adds to the problem of poor test results in addition to the child getting left in the dark.
  • Some kids get dropped off here as early as 4:30 am and don't get home until 18:00 therefore only having a short time at home and struggle to stay awake at school during the day. 
In spite of such unfortunate situations, there is hope that blossomed from my last bullet point. In brief, Hillsong Church has become a global activist and is working with Tembaletu to build accommodation for these learners that need it. Please check out the powerful video at the following link: Tembaletu Project.
Hopefully now you have a better idea and a little taste of my experiences at Tembaletu. While many of the challenges are deeply rooted in the system and some days are more of a struggle than others, I am determined to make a difference in any way I can. I'm not looking to save the world but rather spread joy and compassion one child and one smile at a time. 

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope
Jeremiah 29:11

Compassionately yours,
Janelle

*name changed to protect her identity

Thursday, March 10, 2011

Indescribable peace

In a world full of hustle and bustle how often do we take time for ourselves? Time to reflect, to pray, to just be. For me, those moments are few and far between. Whether it's classes, service, being with friends, going out, work, studying, clubs/activities or time with family I am always busy. 24/7. This past weekend was different; sitting in an open field surrounded by mountains while a gentle, warm breeze caressed my skin, I was reminded of what it means to be silent. Needless to say, I've been running (both literally and figuratively) at full speed with very little time to be truly alone. This is not to say that I don't enjoy living with my housemates because quite the opposite is true: they're all awesome and I couldn't be happier. It's just not being able to go anywhere by myself for 6 weeks straight was a challenge that made me realize how fortunate I am to have independence back home in the States.

A little bit more about the weekend, my housemates and I went on a retreat to Volmoed (pronounced "full mut," meaning "full of courage") to meet with John W. De Gruchy, the author of a book we had to read, Reconciliation: Restoring Justice. Between arriving Friday evening and returning Sunday afternoon, John met with us 3 times to discuss different parts of his book, my favorite aspect being Christian Humanism (which actually isn't part of the book but it's his own personal belief). Put simply, at the heart of Christian Humanism is treating each other as human beings rather than labeling everyone according to their religion, denomination, or belief. I was attracted to this idea because it values a person as a whole and keeps an open perspective. It's definitely something I'm interested in researching further. 
The view of Volmoed from on top of the mountain on Saturday 
My favorite part of the weekend, however, was sleeping in an open field under a true galaxy of stars, during which I saw 8 shooting stars, woke up to roosters crowing and and then hiked a mountain at 5:30 am to watch the sunrise on both Saturday and Sunday. There are absolutely no words to justly describe the beauty I witnessed. Oh, and I got to swim in a waterfall too, which was pretty cool :D

Sitting on top of the mountain, on the edge of a rock that overlooked all of Volmoed (don't worry Mama, I didn't fall off) I realized how truly blessed I am: to be here in this moment, to experience South Africa through this remarkable program, to share my adventures with 19 wonderful people whom I have the joy of living with, to have an unbelievably loving family back home, a fabulous support group of friends and family, the Chick Evans Scholarship that allows me to be at Marquette, and a fulfilling faith and relationship with God. I am completely at peace and I pray that I may sustain that mindset throughout my time in South Africa and transfer it back home.
Sunday sunrise view

If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.
Romans 12:18

Peacefully yours,
Janelle

Sunday, February 27, 2011

No need for words...

Me and Stacey
A toothless smile, outstretched hands, no hesitation, no fear. Our eyes met and a connection sparked to life. Hope emanated from within her and her eyes begged me for only one thing: love. We stood hand in hand, swaying back and forth as the music of the Lord filled the room, though the voices that echoed around me were but a muffled melody amidst my own thoughts and words of the Holy Spirit: “Look at her. She is my child just as you are. This is love. Love that is innocent, courageous, joyous, zealous, simple, embracing, pure, captivating, vivacious, warm, hopeful. This. Is. Love.”
           
Seeing her surfaced another reason why I am here. This feeling of reassurance that I am meant to be here, whose origin I cannot describe, enveloped me in a warm embrace as her laughter filled my ears. Simultaneously, tears filled my eyes as my heart was overwhelmed with both joy and sorrow. How long had it been since I had been completely detached from myself and consumed by such pure love? Too long. Far too long. But by the power of God’s grace and mercy, that changed today.

Although our encounter lasted less than an hour, the little girl that I met at a church service this morning made a timeless impact towards my perspective on love, purpose, and life. The church service was in association with Place of Hope, which is Hannah’s (one of my 19 awesome housemates) service site. In short, Place of Hope is designed to empower women and their children in crisis to get back on their feet and move forward.

Today was my first time going there and needless to say, it will not be my last.

Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth. 
1 John 3:18

Lovingly yours,
Janelle